“I think that the best thing we can do for our children is to allow them to do things for themselves, allow them to be strong, allow them to experience life on their own terms… let them be better people, let them believe more in themselves.”
- Joy Bell C.
Parenting is hard. Even the most calm parents lose their cool at times. So what does it mean to parent positively?
The idea of parenting positively is one that replaces the "Because I said so" philosophy. Instead of focusing on the past and what happened, focus on the current moment.
If you scream and yell, you're setting the example that it's okay to do the same. Try to remain calm as best you can, even when it's challenging. Be a positive parent and seek to understand the emotions or frustrations your child is feeling.
It's helpful to put yourself in your child's shoes, and see things through their eyes. Remember, they are still learning and growing. What not may seem like a big deal to you, could be something very upsetting for them.
To parent positively, give your child an explanation. They need to know why or why not to do certain things. For example, "If you don't wear your seat belt in the car, you could get hurt." Instead of "Put your seat belt on now."
Even as adults, we like to be told what we're doing right. It's the same for your children. Parent positively by staying positive yourself. Compliment your child for good behavior.
If you don't want your child to act out for attention, you need to give them attention. This means spending some quality one-on-one time together. Not only will you create some happy memories, you'll strengthen your bond and understanding.
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